Radio presenter and stand-up comedian Sande Bush, popularly known as Dr Ofweneke, has urged men to pay close attention to their partners’ words, stressing that women are intelligent, thoughtful, and highly calculative.
Speaking during a radio show on Tuesday, January 20, 2026, Ofweneke warned that men often misinterpret women’s statements as jokes or pranks, overlooking the deeper meaning behind them.
“Wanaume, mpenzi wako asikuonyeshe madharau kisha aseme ni prank ama joke, anamaanisha na ashafikiria hicho kitu kwa muda. Women never say anything by mistake or as a joke; lazima ukuwe careful akiongea. Anything a woman says when angry or as a joke,” he said, emphasizing that women rarely speak without purpose.
He further elaborated on the influence of women’s words in relationships:
“Women are very intelligent, thoughtful and very calculative, and women have come to know that the only way to destroy a man is not through anything but through words. When a woman threatens you, in her mind, she has already actualised it.”
Ofweneke encouraged men to study their partners’ language carefully and remain mindful of the intent behind every statement:
“You must learn to study the language of a woman. Women do not say things by jokes, coincidence, or by mistake. You must be very careful and very keen,” he added.
On Why Men Change in Relationships
In previous discussions, Dr Ofweneke also offered insights into why men sometimes change during relationships, highlighting four key factors that can affect romance and commitment.
The first reason, he explained, is that some relationships are driven by lust rather than love.
“It wasn’t love, it was lust. I got what I wanted, now the honey has become ordinary. I realised my heart was not really there; it was just because of lust,” he noted. In such cases, initial attraction fades once physical or emotional desires are satisfied.
The second reason is that some men remain in relationships not out of genuine love but to prevent their partner from being with someone else. Over time, this dynamic can shift the relationship from one of affection to one focused on control, leading to emotional detachment.
Dr Ofweneke’s advice underscores the importance of understanding communication and intentions in relationships, reminding men to respect the thoughtfulness and agency of their partners.
